So, here we go, just a short list of what I have to say …..
Weddings are my hot topic. I’ve taken classes, read the etiquette books, and still read Bride’s magazine. Let’s just say this, your wedding will be one of the most important days of your life, you are spending a small fortune (or at least a nice down payment on a house) on it, so make it the best it can be for you and your guests.
Out of Town Guests
I’m probably alittle more passionate than I should be about this, but bear in mind, that Jeff and I are always part of the out-of-towners group. Also, I planned a wedding where 90% of my guest list was coming in from out of state. This is a subject that I feel I can speak on. Please send them something that says ‘Save the Date’. It is unlikely they we are going to run into you, your mother, future mother-in-law or any of aunts at the grocery store. So, there is a good chance that we will have no idea when your actual wedding is, these people will need alittle more than 6 to 8 weeks notice on when the happy day is happening. There are reservations and plans to make, babysitters and pet sitters to book, and schedules to clear. My rules are simple. These notices should be mailed (from an actual post office), and really only need to go to those who will be coming in for out of town. Oh, and I don’t need a magnet with your picture on it.
|Wouldn't this have made a great magnet?|
Invitations are simple. They should include, when and where the wedding & reception will be. Do include directions if you are getting hitched at some out of the way place. Do not include your registry information, or hotel information (you can put that in a save the date, shower invitation or mention (or link it) on your wedding website) in the invitation. If you are looking for RSVP’s, include an addressed, stamped envelope to be returned. Enough said. Oh, and when you are an invited guest, return your RSVP, nothing stresses a bride out like calling you to find out if you are coming.
Showers – Bachelor Bachelorette Parties
Do not have a shower if you and/or the groom have been married before. Bad Idea. It will make people mad. Also, if you are over the age of 30 you do not need to have a Bachelor or Bachelorette Party. These are an excuse to get drunk, and act inappropriately. You are an adult you can get drunk and act inappropriate whenever you want now. You should have all that out of your system. Your friends that are your age will not be comfortable at these, I know that I wasn’t even comfortable at mine (maybe that’s why I drank so much??). Also, grown women with jobs do not need pictures of them with a penis straw hanging out of their mouths on Facebook for the whole world to see. Same goes for guys and boob cakes.
|A picture like this for example.|
Dollar Dances – Money Trees
Don’t do them. Tacky. I have to say I haven’t seen any of this going on very much any more. What I do see is people asking there guests to donate money on-line to funds that will help them make a down payment on a house or pay for their honeymoon. News flash, when you get cash for your wedding you can do this yourself. Don’t be lazy and greedy.
These are just my thoughts and lord knows I have about a thousand more things that should or should not be done. These are not the gospel and I am not Emily Post, so if you have done these things (and trust me I did a few too, before I knew what I know now) don’t worry these things won’t make or break your wedding. Since this blog is kinda like my diary, take the words of Bridget Jones “everyone knows that diaries are just full of crap anyway.” It’s your day, do as you please; after all you are paying for it!