Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Always A Bridesmaid

Being a Bridesmaid has really changed over the years.  In the our parents generation this was a role typically filled by a few close friends, and family members, and their only real responsibility was to get the right dress, attend the shower and the wedding.

Today, everything is changing.  Being a Bridesmaids is shifting to more friends that feel like family.  They are responsible for alot and both giving their time and their money.

So what is the the modern day Bridesmaid responsible for?

1.  First and Foremost - being there for the Bride, doing everything that she asks of you during the planning process through the brunch the day after the Wedding.  This means not complaining and not rolling your eyes when you are asked to help assemble invitations.

2.  Looking your best.  Getting the right dress, getting your nails and hair done to look stunning in the pictures.  This is really one of the fun parts because salons full of Bridesmaids are is alot of fun.

3.  Throwing a Shower.  The Bridesmaids should throw the Bride a Shower.  This is should be a shower for the ladies your age and your friends.

4.  Buying the gifts. This is going to sound expensive but you need to buy a gift for the engagement party, all the showers (you are obligated to attend all of them, unless you commute is by airplane) you are invited to, the Bachelorette party and the wedding.  Save money by going in together with the Bridal Party to be buy one big gift for the weddings and showers.

5.  Speaking of the Bachelorette party, I know these have gotten alittle out of hand.  If the Bride wants to go to Vegas, you are going to Vegas.  Remember, if the Bride wants to go to Vegas, she needs to pay at least part of her own way.  Maybe that gift could be airfare, or paying for the hotel room.

6.  Do not complain.  Weddings are very stressful to plan and it will take down even the most considerate friend, don't worry they all come back to their senses after the Honeymoon.  Do you best to go with the flow.

7.  Get to the church on time.  Be on time for everything.

8.  Be the eyes in the back of her head.  Watch her back at the reception.  Is her Brother flirting with the best man's wife?  Lock it down.  Make sure that she has the best time.  Also, make sure that her makeup doesn't need to touched up or that she has help when she needs to go to the Ladies room.

Remember to smile, this is the happiest day of her life and you are happy for her, and she will kill you if you are not smiling in the pictures!


Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Ask CW: Nobody Wants to Cut the Cake at your Wedding

Dear Cyn:

My finance and I are planning a small wedding party, but we have a few friends and family that we would still like to include in our big day, is there some way we can include them so that they feel included in our special day?


Dear Gigi:

It is very thoughtful that you would like to include as many people as possible in your big day.  It is appreciated.  Think about things like reading a poem or performing a song during the ceremony.  Also, lighting any candles of honor (these are candles light for family and friends that have passed).  Aunts and Uncles can be honored by providing them with corsages and boutonnieres.   From someone who has watched a guest book, monitored (and cut) a cake, and passed out bubbles and rice, that is not including someone in your big day.  These are terrible (and unnecessary) jobs that will annoy, rather than include your guest.  Honestly, most guests will just be happy to be invited.

Have a etiquette question or concern?  I'm always happy to help.  Send us an email at: and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Weddings By the Numbers

Planning a wedding can be alot like being on a road trip to a place you have never been and your GPS isn't working and you have to read the old map that has been in the glove box for years.  Where do you go, where do you start?  What will be my biggest expense?  Who do we invite?

My main goal on Cynfully Wonderful Events is to take the 'scary' out of event planning.  Give you the GPS, if you will, to the perfect event.  I know that the more information that I can provide, the better you can develop a budget, develop a guest list and then work out the details.  Start with big items, and then move on to the fun, little details.

Let's break down weddings by the numbers.

Each year there are 2.4 million weddings a year in the US.

The average engagement period is 12-16 months.

The average number of guests invited to a wedding is 178, the average amount that attend is 157.

The average cost of wedding is $30,000

The biggest cost category in a wedding is the reception.  The biggest cost at reception is the food.

The average number of bridesmaids per wedding is 3

See not so scary right?

Happy Planning!