Saturday, March 11, 2017

Ask CW: How to Include Step-Parents in your Wedding

We get alot of questions from readers, we try to help where we can.
Dear CW:  My parents have been divorced since I was young.  They have both remarried wonderful people who have become an important part of my life.  I want to honor ‘all’ of my parents, but I do not want my biological parents to feel like I’ve diminished their role in our Wedding.  Do you have any suggestions on how I can include them?
~Lots of Parents
Dear Reader:  What a wonderful problem to have.  May I make a suggestion?  Communication will be the key to no hurt feelings in this situation.  Please have a discussion with each set of parents early in the planning process and ask them if they would like to participate in the Wedding, and what role they would like to play.  Also, update them throughout the process so there are no surprises come the big day.   
Many brides have their step father walk them half way up the aisle and their father walk them to remaining path to the altar.  If this is something you would like to do speak to both of them and make sure they are both comfortable.  I would also recommend, that the question “Who gives this woman to be married” is answer with “Her parents and I”.  Another wonderful way to honor both sets of parents would be to bring flowers to all the Mothers during the ceremony, while the pianist plays.
At the reception, the ‘fathers’ could share the father's dance or if you're fiancĂ©e also has a stepmother you could have 2 Father/Mother songs where you both dance with your step parents.   This would be after you have danced with your father and him with his mother.  Both fathers can also give toasts.

Be mindful to set aside some time while you are preparing for day with each of the mothers, and pictures should also include both sets, individually and together.
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