Sunday, May 14, 2017
Ask CW: Engagement Parties
Lots of Engagement Party questions.
My parents would like to throw my fiancee and I an engagement party. I have never been to one, so I am not sure of how it should be done, or who should be invited. Also, what do you do an engagement party?
~Not Sure Where to Start
Relax. Engagement parties are easy to plan. First of all you should work with your parents to create a guest list. There is only one rule, do not invite anyone to party that will not be invited to the Wedding. Talk to your parents about the size that you both are comfortable with. It can also be as formal or in-formal as you like, cocktail party to backyard bbq. As far as what happens at a engagement party, there is alot of mingling, and toasts to the happy couple. Make sure to toast your parents to thank them.
My husband and I have just been invited to a dear friend's daughter's engagement party. It is going to be a cocktail party at a local country club. Do we bring a gift, or just offer our congratulations to the couple?
~Gift or No Gift
Gifts are not expected (or should not be) expected at an engagement party. A nice card, and face to face congratulations are all that are required.
I am getting remarried in the fall. My sister would like to host a garden engagement party for us this summer. Is this appropriate?
~Second Time Around
It is absolutely appropriate. It's a wonderful way for you to the jitters out about having a second Wedding while celebrating with family and friends.
A couple of side notes:
~While most guests will not bring a gift to the engagement party, some will, these should be followed up with a in person Thank you at the event and a handwritten Thank you after.
~Engagement parties are not mandatory Wedding events, and most couples do not even have one. Don't stress out if no one plans one for you. Your Wedding is not ruined.
~Just as presents are not necessary, favors are not necessary for guests either. Although, it would be fun to give them a hint about the Wedding theme/location.
More questions. Drop me a email or a tweet (@cyndic88) and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.