Monday, April 23, 2012

How to be a good Wedding guest

Oh, that time of year is upon us. The smell of buttercream and flowers are in the air. The words to the chicken dance (or at least the melody) is stuck in your head. If your mailbox is like mine it is filled with save the dates, and invitations to showers, engagement parties and weddings. It's a wonderful time of the year. So, let's just take a few minutes to refresh ourselves on how to be a good guest.

#1 - Return your RSVP card.

Honestly, there is nothing more irritating than people who do not return their RSVPs. It is very
frustrating trying to figure out how many people to plan for when you have 20 RSVP floating around.I understand, I slipped on one last week and heard it from my mom. I did return the it with a note to the Bride apologizing for being late. One final note on this, if you return your RSVP that you are coming at the last minute you can't make (I know it happens) - call the Bride (or her Mom or the Groom or his Mom) and tell them please.

#2 - Attend the Ceremony

I know the reception is the fun part, but there has been alot of planning and time spent on the ceremony as well.  Go and Enjoy.  Hold your partners hand while the Bride and Groom say their vows, it will remind you of yours.

#3 - Resist the Urge

To compare the wedding to your own.  Whether or not it looks like the Bride spent alot of time planning, rest assure that she did.  Resist this urge even if you see elements of your own wedding (in my case just 6 months prior) in their wedding, resist the urge to point this out even if other guests do.

#4 - Watch your fluid intake

The open bar is tempting.  It's like going to a buffet, it's like they want you to stuff yourself and feel awful later (or in the morning).  This will cause you to say things that you don't mean, for example "When did your wife start dressing like Michael Jackson?" -- yes I did overhear that at a wedding.  A couple of drinks will get you loosened up for the 'Electric Slide' - just don't get too loose, if you know what I mean.

#5 - Thank the Bride and Groom

It's important that you get alittle face time with them.  Thank them for the lovely dinner, and sharing their special day with you.  The best way to excuse yourself?  "Well, I know you have alot of other people to see, I can't wait to catch up with you after your honeymoon."

#6 - Don't Forget the Gift

Simple card, write a check, that way you will know they got it.

#7 - Enjoy Yourself

Eat, drink, dance.  Catch up with family and old friends, make some new ones!


PS - So now you know what how to act, find out What to get the Bride and Groom.


  1. I didn't see "be a people person" on there! It is important to get along with the other guests too.

    Also, I've seen getting along with the other guests go too far the other way . . . so be a people person, but keep your hands to yourself. That could be a subpoint under #4.
    I will be watching to see if you obey your own rules at the very next wedding you attend!

    1. That's a good one, I thought that you would appreciate the Michael Jackson comment!


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