Saturday, October 20, 2012

Bridal Shower Saturday

I am off to a Bridal Shower today, so I'm out of here...please enjoy some wedding related posts...


Bride's Demanding Email to Bridemaids

Wedding Trends: Love/Hate Edition

Things that do not belong at your Wedding

What to get the Bride and Groom

The (Financial) Cost of being in a Wedding

How to be a good Wedding guest



Enjoy and have a Great Weekend!

~Cyn

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Bride's Demanding Email to Bridemaids

I am hoping beyond hope that this email that is making it way around the Internet is a joke, or fake at least, which I guess would make it a joke.  While I embrace the organized Bride, and I'm not opposed to communicating what you want to those involved with the wedding, this is over the top.  There is such a harsh tone to this is completely unacceptable.   I pulled this off of the Gawker, take a minute to read it (and I really suggest heading over to Gawker and reading their take on it) and just soak it in.


To m lovely Bridesmaid: [Names removed to protect the brideslaves]
 
As you all know I picked 10 wonderful ladies to stand by my side, share and make happen my special day to Jake. Each of you individually have a reason and a special place in my heart of why I picked you to be a bridesmaid. We have set our date for Saturday, August 31, 2013 in Vail, Colorado. That seems far away but it really isn't, the earlier the planning the better. You may have already knew that my wonderful sister L— will be the Maid of Honor, she's in charge under me. Also my lovely mom will be a big help as well. L— has a big role in throwing me a bridal shower and bachelorette party, of course all of you guys do but at the end of the day shes the go to person and makes it happen.
You all have a big roll in this wedding, so before we continue I'm going to be setting some ground rules and its very important you read and think about everything through before you accept this honor to be a bridesmaid. If you guys email anything I would also like you to put L— in the CC. Not all the bridesmaid need to be CC'd unless its coming from me or L—, if it something everyone needs to see then well do it. We set the date to August 31, 2013 if that's a problem we need to know NOW. Also by the end of the week we will be setting dates for the engagement party, bridal show and bachelorette party.
Our wedding party is really the most important people at the wedding besides my self and Jake so we want every single one of our bridesmaid and grooms at our parties, I have 10 not 8 where two couldn't make it so if you already know you cant make one of the parties then we have to find someone else, not to be harsh in the slightest it would sadden me and of course you'll still be invited to our wedding, engagement ect. But it's different if your not in the wedding party and couldn't make it. We'll give everyone well advance dates for the parties and it will always fall on a weekend. The wedding as I stated will be in Vail the engagement party will either be in NY or CT and the bachelorette party will be in Vegas, cliche yeaa but I've never been.
A few girls live out of town so if there is going to be a problem with coming to either one then I need to know now because after this week I don't want to be surprised. I would like everyone to send me any dates they are going away or planning to go away after February so if your going away in January I don't care. I want any dates from February to the day of our wedding in August, that way we know not to plan something when your away. But after this week the dates are set in stone. Also if money is tight and you cant afford to contribute to say the bachelorette party or wont be able to afford a dress etc then L— and Myself don't have time to deal with that, I'm sorry. This includes flights as well, everyone knows the states where the parties are going to be held so if you wont be able to afford a flight then that means you cant make a party which ultimately means I cant have you as a bridesmaid. Obviously we'll get the best deals and were not gonna books flights for $1000 and shit that's why were doing this in advance, that goes for bridesmaids dresses as well everything will be affordable but if you think by affordable its going to be a $25 forever 21 dress then your going to the wrong wedding.
If your out of state though don't think you have to fly in for all fittings, that we will work with you, find stores in your town, get measurements..you don't have to worry about that. Also if you accept this honor another thing is that you need to be available, I'm not going to harass you with wedding stuff every hour of everyday but if its something important and it takes you a week even 2-3 days to get back to me seeeee ya! I don't have time to wait around for responses, everyone has their phone on them, it shouldn't take you more than a day to get back to me, even if your out of the country, check your email!
Furthermore, Ever since I could remember I have dreamed about this day all my life. I want to share it with the people that are most important to me. You only get one time to plan your dream wedding and I couldn't pick a more amazing group of girls to make that dream come true! So please, what's stated above think about it all and by Wednesday I need to know if everyone is 100% in, and what I have asked about sending me dates if your gonna be away between Feb-Aug ill need that on Wednesday. If you don't think you'll be able to attend one party but can make the rest of them I'm sorry but I'll have to take you out as a bridesmaid and put you as a guest. If you want to get back to me before Wednesday, that's fine. Really think about everything I've said. This is really going to be the most epic wedding ever so I hope you girls can share this special day with us!
Love,
There are so many ways to respond to this, I 'pretended' to one of the lucky ten and decided to write a reply.
Dear Bridezilla (name changed to protect the crazy) –
 
Here it is 11:50 pm on Wednesday and I’ve finally found the time in my busy schedule to respond. It is with deep regret that I will have to decline the honor (as you put it) of being a part of your EPIC dream day. After sitting down and taking a look at my schedule, I was astonished to learn how many weekends were booked up between February and August of next year. There is so much to do, with all the dentist appointments, getting my taxes done, and volunteering to pick trash on the sides of major highways I have planned.  I was also very surprised to learn that August 31st was the date of the vacation I just booked about an hour ago to South America, so no need to worry about inviting me to the wedding either!
It probably would not be worth the effort to even invite to any of these events because I probably won’t have the cash, since all I seem to do with my disposable income these days is put it in the bank saving up for the house, I’ve had my eye on, that I'm not sure that I can afford your version of a 'affordable' bridesmaid dress, or all the jetting around the country your wedding involves.
 
I really hope that you enjoy Vegas, please do not forget to walk up and down the strip with one of those cheesy veils and “Bride” sashes on. Remember, you want to draw as much attention as possible to yourself. But, with 10 Bridesmaids walking behind you, I’m sure that will not be a problem.
 
I’ll let you go, since I know that your time is precious, and you don’t have deal with me anymore since I will not be able 100% comment to your wedding.  I positive that you will have no problem at all replacing me, since you seem to have replacements already in line.  Please send your Mom, Sister and Jake my love, and tell them I will be thinking of them during this their time of need.

Love Ya Lots

Again, let's all hope that this is joke and there is not a crazy Bride running around alienating everyone in her life!

~Cyn

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Wedding Trends: Love/Hate Edition


Alot of people tell me about weddings, their weddings, weddings they were in, weddings they have been to, and my favorite, weddings that other people tell them about.  I love it, I love hearing about what people loved, and what people could have done without.  This was a pretty good wedding season, and I’ve heard a lot, so I thought that it would be fun to explore some of the trends.

Let’s start with the Love….

Little Boys Announcing the Bride
 
This little guy was at my Sister-In-Law's Wedding in August.
 

Seriously, is this not the cutest thing?  It’s a great way to involve the little ones. 

Photo booths

These are great, they help the guest interact with each other, entertains them, and creates memories. 

Midnight Snacks

Have you heard of this?  Couples feed their guest alittle snack at the end of the night.  I have heard of pretzel carts, and hot dog trucks.  These are great because they serve two purposes.  The first, it helps absorb some of the alcohol your guests have been drinking all night (admit it, we have all ran through Taco Bell after a reception), and secondly, they signal the ‘end of the night’ a cue for your guests that you are wrapping it up.

The Cupcake Tower
 

I love cupcakes, they are easy to eat, they do not require silverware, and you can snack on them all night.  You can still ‘cut the cake’ you just have the baker make you two small round cakes (one to cut, one for your anniversary) and you are in business.

Bring the Hate (ok, I really don’t ‘hate’ these trends, most of them just need to be done the right way.

Unity Sand
 
 

Many couples have drifted to this instead of the unity candle in their ceremonies.  I love the sand, in fact, my Hubby and I did at our wedding years ago, and I think it’s past its prime. 

Waiting around at the Reception

If you, as a Bride and Groom, feel the need to drive around drinking and taking pictures for 3 or 4 hours between your ceremony and reception, that is perfectly your right, just remove the phrase “reception to immediately follow” from your invitation, replace it with a time, so that your guest don’t sit around waiting for you.

Cocktail Party Receptions

These are totally great in theory, but they need to be done the right way.  These should take place immediately following the ceremony, in the same venue or a venue that is close by.  Do not schedule these for later in the evening.  Do not take your Bridal Party to dinner between the wedding and reception and then feed your guests appetizers.  Have a drinks and appetizers after your ceremony, then everyone (separately) can do to dinner afterwards.

Giant (Wide and Tall) Centerpieces
 
Photo Credit : Bridal Flowers.org
 

Do not get me wrong they are beautiful.  They are stunning to see when you walk in a room, then you sit down.  While trying to balance your dinner plate, bread plate and all the glasses on the table (which is smaller now), and trying to have a conversation with your college roommate on the other side of the centerpiece, you will remember why these are not the best choice.
 

Again, I love to hear about weddings and all the craziness, so feel free to let me know what you love, and what you could do without!

~Cyn