Wedding Traditions, the Do, Skip and Maybe
Does the idea of Wedding traditions conjure up dollar dances and drunk bridesmaids fighting over the bouquet? Should you even plan to include these outdated traditions? I will admit done right most of these traditions are worth keeping.
Throwing the Bouquet
Why? It stems from an old tradition where the bride would tie together fabric from her dress with some flowers and throw to the single ladies, who wanted to 'catch' her luck. I love this tradition, how many of have waited to be the bride doing the throwing instead of the one of the girls in the back pretending to not be interested in catching it?
Verdict: Do it! Have the florist put together a 'throwing bouquet" of silk flowers, use it to decorate the cake table and then throw it when you are ready to have the reception start winding down.
Apparently this started in the 14th century when the Groom would throw the Bride's garter to all the single men. I hate this tradition, it is my least favorite. It think it is stupid, but alot of people like it, it keeps the crowd going.
Verdict: Your call. I was unable to talk my own Groom out of it.
Not Seeing the Bride Before the Wedding
As we have all heard this is bad luck. But today's timelines really don't allow for this. Many weddings aren't until the evening and with entertaining out of town guests, and pictures it may not be feasible.
Verdict: Skip it! If you feel that strongly about it, honor the tradition, if your timeline doesn't allow for it. Don't worry about it. Have fun, enjoy your day together, that is truly what it is about.
Who can forget the Armadillo cake that the Groom's Aunt made in Steel Magnolias. This originated in Great Britain in the 18th century and was a liquor soaked fruit cake (yum!) The flavor of it was different from the Wedding cake which was referred to as the Bride's cake, and was a second option for guest. Today is used to show some of the couples personality.
Verdict: Do it! My one true Wedding Day regret. My advice, don't make a huge one and make sure the guests leave with either a piece of the Groom's of the Bride's cake!
I take it back about the garter toss, this is my least favorite tradition. Started as a way to give the Bride and Groom alittle cash to start their new lives. It's completely outdated.
Verdict: Skip it! To quote my sister "tacky with a capital T" - Guests are already starting to view Weddings as a money grab, I think that the envelope in the card box will be enough to get you started.