Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Social Media and Your Wedding

These days you can't get away with not addressing your Wedding on social media.  With all of us on your phones and checking our Facebook, Instagram and Twitter feeds all day it's bound to come up.  The real trick is not to annoy your friends or those people that you went to High School that won't be attending the Wedding.  You also don't want to many details to leak out about the Big Day because let's face it, the fun part of the Wedding is watching your guests react to all the fun and cool things that you have planned.


I love the idea of a closed Facebook group.  Make yourself and your partner both administrators and you can invite guests to join the group.  It would be a great place to store information like maps & directions, hotel information, where you are registered (with links), and date and time.  These are great because you can give almost real time information.  For instance, say that there is a flood and the church and you are moving the Wedding to the reception venue, you can pop that up on Facebook, and that will be a great way of notifying guest, although you will still want to make some calls.

Be careful to only share information on events that are open to the whole guest list, this will avoid 30 extra people showing up to the rehearsal dinner.

Twitter, Instagram

There is not a way to create a group in either of these applications.  You should however, create a hashtag to use throughout the planning the process, and that your guests can use the day of.  If these had been around when I got married I would have used : jcttobe519  (Jeff and Cyndi T to be 5-19), cute huh?  You could go as far as to create a user specifically for the Wedding, and then friend/follow guests.


With the popularity of Facebook, these are not completely necessary these days, but they are still really good for providing information and pictures.  Different from Facebook group, this is alot less private and your information is there for all the world to see. Check out and for free Wedding sites.

What to Post

Again, you don't want to leak too many details, but maybe some teasers (Be Creative!).
  • Picture of your one foot in your Wedding shoes
  • Engagement Pictures
  • Paint swatches with the wedding colors
  • Pictures for any Engagement or Wedding Showers
  • Something to tease at the theme

Day of Posts

There is ALOT going around now about the proper etiquette regarding Wedding pictures.

Should guests post them before the Bride and Groom have a chance to post pictures?  No, will guests post them first?  Yes.  Unless you don't want this to happen, the only real way to control this is to collect everyone's cell phones on the way into the ceremony.  Probably not worth it.

If you hire a coordinator, the first shot can be controlled by them, for you.  Give them your account user/sign-in and they can be snapping pictures all day and night and sharing them with guests.

As always, if you have any questions, please let me know I am always here to help!

Happy Planning!

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Event Vendor Spotlight: Photographers

This picture used to hang in my parent's entryway, on the way below a bench.  When my niece was little should we climb up on the bench and ask my Mom why she wasn't in the picture.  Long story short she would arrive about 3 months after the wedding.  We eventually had to retake a family picture so she could be in it!

My point is that photos from a wedding are very important that capture all the moments you don't want to forget.  Below are a some important tips for finding the right photographer for your wedding, including some questions that you want to ask.


In wedding photography you really do get what you pay for.  Expect to pay between $1,100 to $2,000 for a photographer worth their weight.  The price should include a standard bridal wedding album, additional prints and albums will cost you more.  What you get for the price is what you need to ask.

  • How many photographers?  
  • How many hours does that include?
  • Will they travel to multiple locations?
  • How many proofs will you receive (should be in at least 500-700 shots)
  • Album options (don't get too hung up on this, you can always do your own)
Digital Copies 

You want to own your proofs.  You will want to have a digital copy so that you can have prints made for friends and family or even 20 years later if you want.  Typically, you will have to meet a minimal dollar amount of prints to own your proofs.  Ask if you can pay to buy these outright.  

Shot List

I remember meeting with a photographer who told me when I asked about a shot list to "not worry about it honey, we do this all the time" - yep that interview was OVER.  Typically, they will have a standard list, but if you have several cannot miss shots make sure that you give them a list of those.  If you are hiring a coordinator, please make sure they receive a copy and have a rough idea of who everyone who needs to be in a photo is...

Other Questions:

  • Are they familiar with the venues?
  • Deposit and cancellation policies
  • Overtime policy
Be very upfront about what you are looking for.  If that means taking pictures while you and the bridal party get ready or staying until the last guest leaves.  You might have to pay for what you want, but being up front helps you compare photographers.

Like with all vendors, seek references from your family, friends, co-workers, your venue consultant. Most venues have a list of preferred vendors that they work with, the benefit to this is that they understand the space, it’s limitations and benefits.  Talk to at least 3 before you make any decisions, do not let them fool you with that "we need a deposit to hold your date" before you are ready to make a decision.

As always please feel free to send me any questions, I am here to help!

Happy Planning!


Wednesday, June 11, 2014

7 Things I wouldn't have done differently from my Wedding

Last week for #WeddingWednesday I wrote about the 7 Things I would have done differently from my own Wedding.  This week, we highlight the 7 things that I would not change!

1.  Seeing the Groom before the Wedding.

Although I am a stickler on wedding etiquette, I didn't fall for some of the old wives tales.  We stayed together the night before, had breakfast together the morning of, and then saw each other before the ceremony to take advantage of the beautiful scenery and the wonderful light before our 6 pm wedding ceremony.  I love the picture before, in fact we have this hanging in our bedroom, it is a wonderful reminder of the him seeing me in my dress for the first time.

2.  Having Kids at the Wedding.

It was really not a choice for us for several different reasons.  The first being that we love kids and all of our family have kids and we couldn't imagine them not attending.  The second being that 90% of our guests were from out of town, and would you go to an out of town if you couldn't bring your kids?  Also, why would you not want to see the kids dancing around like this?

3.  Having it outdoors.

It's very risky, and I was would have been really upset if we had to go with our back-up plan, but the risk paid off.  I am not crying in the picture before, it was really hot and that is sweat, I know much less romantic, but the truth.

4.  Keeping the budget in check with my mad DIY skills.

I have a confession.  I had a mini-bridezilla melt done while attempting to make the pew bows.  Hubs, upon witnessing this, called the florist and asked them to do.  I did however have some wins.  I made all the jewelry that my bridal party, all the welcome bags and these nifty personalized water bottles.

5.  Having the ceremony and reception at the same place.

As I mentioned most of our guests were from out of town, so it just made sense to not make them drive all over the place they were not familiar with.  After the ceremony while we were making our dramatic exit, the staff of the venue was switching the ceremony site over to table and chairs, for the social hour, before dinner.  It was awesome, we had a few minutes in the limo to relax and everyone was there when we got back.

6.  Having only one hotel option for my guests.

It was so much easier.  Everyone was in one place, and it allowed the reception to spill over to the early morning hours.  The benefits we received we worth it for us and for our guests.  The hotel run a shuttle all night, bringing guests to and from, the venue without them having to get stressed out about finding the place.  It also made for a interesting reception since no one had to be the DD.

7.    Unscripted Moments like this.

I am a planner by trade and by nature, so I typically do not do will when we go off script or plan.  He will not admit to this, but he planned this.  We sent out Christmas cards the next with this picture wishing everyone a "Smashing New Year" - check out the look my niece's face...

Happy Planning!

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

7 things I would do differently from my Wedding

A couple of weeks ago, Hubs and I celebrated 7 years of wedding bliss.  It seems like those days have gone by in a heartbeat.  Every year I like to celebrate by looking through our pictures and remembering the day.  It was a beautiful day in May and we had such a great time, and these are not major regrets, but they bother the Wedding Planner in me!

1.  More Sand

I would have had more sand in our sand ceremony.  Big Vases too.

2.  Cake Tipping Worry

I worried through out my whole ceremony that we would go back inside and cake would be on the floor I don't know why it was tipped upward, but it was and it annoyed me.

3.  Better Table Decorations

 I went with the standard package, I let coming in under budget cloud my judgement.

4.  Provided the Photographer with a better shot list.

There were some pictures, like one with my husband and his Grandmother.

5.  Relaxed More.

I feel like I was preoccupied all day with details, and didn't really enjoy, enjoy the day.

6.  This goes hand and hand with #5, I wish I would have been nicer.  

I was alittle Bridezilla.  Mostly the night before and the day of.

7.  I would have hired a day of coordinator.

I know they would have pointed out that I needed bigger vases and more sand.  They would have been fixing the cake while I was saying my vows, and I would have assisted with the list for the photographer.  These little things would have helped me relax more and be less of a bridezilla.

Happy Planning!

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