People Change. What you thought 5 years ago (or even last week) might be different than what and how you think today.
Change is good. It's Human Nature. What is important is that we continue to move in a positive direction.
So every now and then we should ask ourselves the BIG questions. The following questions come from a recent article that I read in Oprah magazine, by Martha Beck. It had 20 questions, but I narrowed it to what I believe are the most important to me, and you will find my answers below. I encourage you to answer them for yourself.
1. Do I Care too Much about What People Think?
I do care too much, but I've noticed that the older I get it only matters to me what the people I care about the most think. If you worry about pleasing the masses you lose yourself and your voice.
2. Am I with the Right Person?
Absolutely. Not only do I love my Husband, I know that he loves me and that he truly gets me, and understands me (even when I am talking with a mouth full of toothpaste). That is what is important.
3. What do I really Want to do all day?
If ever there was a loaded question. I would like to spend all day, everyday, doing what I am doing today. Which happens to be watching a Simpsons Marathon and writing, but in 6 months will that be enough? Who knows.
4. Do I Know how to say No?
I do, but I am still not very good at it and it always comes with a heavy side of guilt. This is an area for growth for me and I continue to work on it.
5. What I am I afraid of?
Disappointing people. I am not afraid of failing, but I am afraid of never succeeding.
If you keep a journal it would be worth it maybe to write down the answers to these questions and re-visit them every 6 months or so. There are not right or wrong answers, it's just an exercise.
Has you thinking doesn't it?
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
Each week I receive emails from brides all over the country for answers to their most stressful wedding questions. Here are a couple I thought I would share.
Dear Cyn: We are hosting a wedding where the majority of the our guests are from out of town. I feel like we should invite as many of them as possible to the our rehearsal dinner so they will not feel left out and not be stuck in the hotel with nothing to do. What are the rules on who should be invited?
Dear HG: The rule is this, you can invite whoever you want to the dinner following your Wedding rehearsal. Do you need to, not necessarily. I've written in the past on who needs to be invited, after them you can invite whoever you would like. Your guests might be excited to explore a new area or town while the bridal party and immediate families are at the rehearsal and the dinner following. Provide a list of activities and restaurants for them check out.
Dear Cyn: My parents and I are fighting over having a cash bar at my reception. They are completely opposed to it and I think that it would be a great way to save money in the budget, who is right?
Dear DB: I hate to tell you this, but your parents are right. Never fear there are ways to save some money here. By limiting the bar and the contents you can still save.
-Create a signature drink, and limit the alcohol behind the bar to what is required to make it.
-Close the bar during dinner. Most venues give you the option to serve wine only during dinner.
For other money saving tips please see my 10 Favorite Ways to Save $$$ on your Wedding
If you have any questions I would love to help you answer them, please feel free to reach out to my at firstname.lastname@example.org
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
I did something last night that I have never done before. I actually made a pork roast that was flavorful and not dry! I could hardly believe it myself. For this dish is mostly about the prep. Once the prep is down, once it comes out of the oven you are done and ready to eat. I got this recipe from Better Homes and Gardens and it is terrific. They made them with sweet potatoes but we are not really (while I am not) fans of sweet potatoes so I might have switched up a couple of things.
Here is What you Need:
3 TBSP of Olive Oil
1 ¼ lbs. pork tenderloin
3 TBSP of Honey
1 TBSP of chopped chipotle chiles in adobo sauce
1 clove of garlic, smashed
1 ¼ Green Beans
1 -2 tsp of Olive Oil
Salt to taste
2 – 3 medium white potatoes, cleaned but not pealed
Olive Oil to grease
Salt and Pepper to taste
Here is How to do it:
Start by preheating the oven to 450.
Clean the beans. Wash and set aside.
Scrub the potatoes. Dice into bit size pieces, add to baking dish, drizzle with olive oil and salt and pepper to taste. Set aside.
Open the chiles, I needed to chop a big one up, you might need to do the same.
In a Medium bowl, combine the chiles, honey, garlic and 1 TBSP of the olive oil, mix and set aside.
On the stove, heat a cast iron skillet (or other heavy skillet), add the 2 remaining TBSP of olive oil. Once hot add the roast, and brown on all sides (about 5 mins) – transfer to a 9x13 baking dish. Brush (on all sides) with the marinade and pop in the oven for 10 mins. At the same time put the potatoes in the oven.
Toss the green beans with olive oil.
Remove the roast from the oven, brush with additional marinade, add the green beans and toss them with salt to taste.
The roast will go back in the oven for another 20-25 minutes, until it comes up to temperature.