This is seriously the least fun/most stressful conversation(s) to have around your Wedding.
Who is going to pay for it?
Even typing that give me an anxiety flashback from gearing up to have that conversation with my parents around my own wedding.
The truth is that weddings these days are combination, Brides family, Groom's family, the couple themselves. Gone are the rules of Emily Post with neatly distributing the bill based on some old society traditions. Many couples want the freedom of planning that paying for the day gives you. Many feel they are too old to have their parents pay for their weddings.
The budget might be the most stressful conversation, but it is truly the most important. It determines the big 3, when, where and how a wedding will take place. What can you afford? Are you willing to push your date out to give you more time to save?
I urge you to sit down with your parents once the fairy dust of your engagement settles. Do not be defensive and don't mad if the number they are willing to offer is not what you expected/wanted it to be. Be thankful for what they offer and start planning. The worse thing you can is argue with your parents for 12 months while you are planning your wedding.
The one thought that I will leave you with is. It truly is one day. It one great day of your life. You will not remember being made that you didn't have room in the budget for seat covers. You will remember the smiles, the stories and how happy you were with plain out chairs without covers.
Over the next coming months we will get deep into the specifics around the budget and what you will/should spend on each aspect of it.
Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Wednesday, October 7, 2015
Being a Bridesmaid has really changed over the years. In the our parents generation this was a role typically filled by a few close friends, and family members, and their only real responsibility was to get the right dress, attend the shower and the wedding.
Today, everything is changing. Being a Bridesmaids is shifting to more friends that feel like family. They are responsible for alot and both giving their time and their money.
So what is the the modern day Bridesmaid responsible for?
1. First and Foremost - being there for the Bride, doing everything that she asks of you during the planning process through the brunch the day after the Wedding. This means not complaining and not rolling your eyes when you are asked to help assemble invitations.
2. Looking your best. Getting the right dress, getting your nails and hair done to look stunning in the pictures. This is really one of the fun parts because salons full of Bridesmaids are is alot of fun.
3. Throwing a Shower. The Bridesmaids should throw the Bride a Shower. This is should be a shower for the ladies your age and your friends.
4. Buying the gifts. This is going to sound expensive but you need to buy a gift for the engagement party, all the showers (you are obligated to attend all of them, unless you commute is by airplane) you are invited to, the Bachelorette party and the wedding. Save money by going in together with the Bridal Party to be buy one big gift for the weddings and showers.
5. Speaking of the Bachelorette party, I know these have gotten alittle out of hand. If the Bride wants to go to Vegas, you are going to Vegas. Remember, if the Bride wants to go to Vegas, she needs to pay at least part of her own way. Maybe that gift could be airfare, or paying for the hotel room.
6. Do not complain. Weddings are very stressful to plan and it will take down even the most considerate friend, don't worry they all come back to their senses after the Honeymoon. Do you best to go with the flow.
7. Get to the church on time. Be on time for everything.
8. Be the eyes in the back of her head. Watch her back at the reception. Is her Brother flirting with the best man's wife? Lock it down. Make sure that she has the best time. Also, make sure that her makeup doesn't need to touched up or that she has help when she needs to go to the Ladies room.
Remember to smile, this is the happiest day of her life and you are happy for her, and she will kill you if you are not smiling in the pictures!
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
My finance and I are planning a small wedding party, but we have a few friends and family that we would still like to include in our big day, is there some way we can include them so that they feel included in our special day?
It is very thoughtful that you would like to include as many people as possible in your big day. It is appreciated. Think about things like reading a poem or performing a song during the ceremony. Also, lighting any candles of honor (these are candles light for family and friends that have passed). Aunts and Uncles can be honored by providing them with corsages and boutonnieres. From someone who has watched a guest book, monitored (and cut) a cake, and passed out bubbles and rice, that is not including someone in your big day. These are terrible (and unnecessary) jobs that will annoy, rather than include your guest. Honestly, most guests will just be happy to be invited.
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